DavemiAttachment Style Test
Rate 20 statements to understand the pattern behind how you connect in close relationships.
About attachment styles
Attachment theory describes how we learned to bond, often from our earliest relationships. It comes down to two dials: how much anxiety you feel about closeness and abandonment, and how much you avoid depending on others. Where those two dials sit produces four broad styles.
- Secure — comfortable with both intimacy and independence.
- Anxious — craves closeness and worries about losing it.
- Avoidant — values independence and keeps some distance.
- Fearful-avoidant — wants closeness but also fears it.
Your style isn't a life sentence — it's a starting point. Awareness is the first step, and many people grow more secure over time.
FAQ
- What are the four attachment styles?
- Secure, anxious (preoccupied), avoidant (dismissive), and fearful-avoidant (disorganized). They describe patterns in how we relate to closeness and depend on others, usually shaped early in life.
- Can your attachment style change?
- Yes. Attachment style is a pattern, not a permanent label. Through self-awareness, healthy relationships, and sometimes therapy, many people move toward greater security over time.
- Is this a clinical assessment?
- No. It's a simplified, for-fun version based on the two dimensions researchers use (attachment anxiety and avoidance). It's great for reflection but isn't a diagnostic tool.
- Is my data saved?
- No. Everything runs in your browser and nothing is stored.
Every possible result
There are 4 possible outcomes on this test. Here's what each one means — take the quiz above to find out which is yours.
Secure Attachment
Comfortable with closeness and with independence.
You can trust and lean on others while staying your own person. You handle conflict without panic, communicate your needs, and give partners room to be themselves — a warm, steady base for close relationships.
- Trusting
- Balanced
- Steady
Anxious Attachment
You crave closeness and fear losing it.
Love matters intensely to you, and you're wonderfully devoted — but you can worry about where you stand and seek reassurance. Noticing that spiral, and voicing your needs calmly, helps you feel more secure.
- Devoted
- Sensitive
- Craves closeness
Avoidant Attachment
You prize independence and keep some distance.
You're self-reliant and value your freedom, sometimes keeping emotions and people at arm's length. Letting others in a little more — and letting yourself depend on them — deepens the bonds you actually want.
- Independent
- Self-reliant
- Private
Fearful-Avoidant
You want closeness but also fear it.
You feel a real push-and-pull: longing for connection yet wary of getting hurt. It can feel like one foot in, one foot out. Building safety slowly — with people who are consistent — helps calm the storm.
- Deep-feeling
- Cautious
- Push-and-pull
All 20 questions in this test
- I worry that people I care about will leave me.
- Strongly disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly agree
- I need a lot of reassurance that I'm loved.
- Strongly disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly agree
- I get anxious when someone I'm close to seems distant.
- Strongly disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly agree
- I worry my feelings are stronger than the other person's.
- Strongly disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly agree
- I'm afraid of being abandoned or rejected.
- Strongly disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly agree
- I overthink messages from people I care about.
- Strongly disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly agree
- I feel uneasy when I don't hear back from someone quickly.
- Strongly disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly agree
- I give a lot in relationships to keep people close.
- Strongly disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly agree
- Small conflicts make me fear the whole relationship is at risk.
- Strongly disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly agree
- I want to be very close — sometimes closer than the other person does.
- Strongly disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly agree
- I find it hard to fully depend on other people.
- Strongly disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly agree
- I prefer to keep some emotional distance.
- Strongly disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly agree
- I feel uncomfortable when people get too close.
- Strongly disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly agree
- I'd rather solve problems on my own than lean on someone.
- Strongly disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly agree
- Opening up about my feelings makes me uneasy.
- Strongly disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly agree
- I value my independence more than closeness.
- Strongly disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly agree
- When things get emotionally intense, I tend to pull back.
- Strongly disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly agree
- I keep parts of myself private, even from close people.
- Strongly disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly agree
- I feel smothered when a partner wants lots of togetherness.
- Strongly disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly agree
- I trust myself more than I trust relying on others.
- Strongly disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly agree
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